Day 1: Start. Stop. Continue.
Start: What do you want to start doing? What do you want
more of in your life? What feelings, what activities, what energy? What baby
steps can you take today? I want to start doing more volunteering with youth or
less fortunate. There is so much to want
in life but ultimately I want to live knowing that I have left an impact on
many lives. I love the feeling I get
after mentoring or volunteering. I would
love to start doing more things outside of my comfort zone. J I’ll make a pledge to start incorporating one
new activity per month into my schedule.
Stop: What have you had enough of? What are you tolerating
or feeding into that is not adding value to your life? What area of your life
is begging for more boundaries? I’ve had enough of people letting me down. Sometimes, I tolerate people’s subpar
behavior because of our relationship.
They are a family member, a life-long friend. I need more boundaries with having
expectations of others in my life. This
is the quickest way for me to be disappointed.
Continue: What habits or trends do you want to continue?
What’s been working for you? What can you do to ensure you keep it going? My number habit to continue is running! It’s
my sanity when I’m insane. My ME time
when I need it most! It is my outlet to release any negative that may be taking
its toll on me. It is my praying time
and my alone time with nature! Writing
is my other outlet. Both running and
writing has been working for me. I’m
sure both will continue. I always make
time for both. I will rearrange my
schedule to ensure I get both done when I feel a need for it! J
Day 2: Joy Snatchers (Narrow it down to your #1. What can you do to minimize or eliminate this
influence? More importantly, do you know and believe that you have the power to
do so?) Sometimes, joy snatchers are so
small that I really shouldn’t give much thought to it. I’m very impatient and sometimes I don’t see
the humor in things. I’m not anal or an
asshole but I honestly don’t get the joke sometimes. I think I can take life a little too serious
at times. I think my number one joy
snatcher is expecting people to behave or think as I would. Okay, let me clarify. I’m not saying that everyone will do as I do
or maybe I am. This is very
contradictory. I just know that I expect
to find the things that I find important just as important to them. The older I get the more I realize we all
have different priorities. Sometimes, I
have a hard time understanding why people do AB&C in situations
XY&Z. I need to move past this and
accept that people handle the same situation differently. More importantly, I need to let people make
mistakes and learn from life’s experiences.
The best way for me to eliminate this joy snatcher is to accept that not
everyone will prioritize what I find important or approach a situation the same
as I will. Yes, I HAVE THE POWER to
change this! Every day, I work on becoming more acceptable and know that I realize
it’s a joy snatcher I will be even more conscious of it. J
Day 3: Favorite Mistake (What mistake have you learned the
most from?) This is a really hard one. I
thought on it and thought on it. My
favorite mistake probably isn’t really a mistake. I learned the most about ME when I became
selfishly concerned about my needs before others. Now, I don’t necessarily think it was a
mistake but my approach may have included a few mistakes. I woke up one morning and decided I was tired
of being the always available child, sibling, aunt, cousin, friend and
girlfriend. I was becoming a crutch for
so many people. And while doing so, I
was stressing and worrying myself over things that others cared nothing
about. I WAS OVER IT!!!! I decided I was
a priority and I was tired of being treated like an option. So, I began focusing on me and what do you
know I didn’t really know myself. I’ll
admit it was lonely at first but then I learned how to enjoy my own
company. I didn’t always need to be
handling business for someone or solving their problems. I did more of the things that made me happy…
Running! Writing! Cooking! Planning! Playing dress up! Dancing! *I CAN’T DANCE
AT ALL* Needless to say, I fell in love
with me all over again! I was my best “mistake”. I lost a few people that shouldn’t have been
on my team anyway. When I stop
benefitting them I was no longer needed in their lives. Oh well!!! I’m happy and I continue to make my
happiness a priority. I’m selfishly
making me happy! And while I’m doing so I continue to learn so much about
myself. Soul searching has been fun,
scary and necessary. I didn’t really
know who I was but I knew who I needed to be for everyone else. It was a relief to be there for me when I
needed me the most. It sounds weird but
it’s the truth. Since selfishly making
my happiness a priority I’ve been less stressed and a lot easier to deal with…
I even started dating. Now, that hasn’t
been the best experience but I’m hopeful! J
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