Day 4: 100% (Where in your life are you not showing up 100%)
Hmm, this made me really think and it made me sad to report
that I’m not giving 100% in any areas of my life. Although, I exceed expectations most of the
time, when I look back I always find an area that I could have given more. Let’s talk work for a minute. I know I’m not giving 100% but the work is so
non-challenging that I feel like 40% will exceed expectations. If I say so myself, I do my job well but it
doesn’t excite me. I love the concept
but I want a more hands on approach to helping people. I do more than the bare minimum but I don’t
give 100%. Relationships – I try to give
100% especially when it comes to family and friends but if you read my previous
post you will know that I’ve become selfish.
Selfish in the fact that I’m not willing to give 100% of myself for
people who are only giving a small percentage of themselves. I’m sure I could do more to be a better
daughter, sister, aunt, cousin and friend but I can’t sacrifice and give more
when I don’t get it in return. Now, my
love life is nonexistent these days. And
not because I’m not “trying” to date but because I haven’t come across the
right one yet. Or maybe the right one
hasn’t come to me. Either way, our paths
haven’t crossed. Dreams – the reality
that I’m not giving 100% to my dreams makes me really sad. My biggest problem is patience. I don’t have any. Maybe I should say very little. This is a vast improvement for me. I know some of my talents but I will quickly
talk myself out of executing them most of the time. And if I do execute them I always do it on a
smaller scale than it should be.
However, I made a promise to myself to not let the fear of failing or
being rejected rule over me. I’m totally
AWESOME at the things I do, especially when I give 100% and I just have to
trust my talent and abilities. J I will say this year I have been
accomplishing things from my vision board.
It’s the best feeling in the world to have a vision posted on a board
and to see it manifest! Okay, I’ll be
HONEST! I totally talk myself out of doing some things and definitely saying
some things. Not as much lately
though. Pre-thirties, I did this all the
time. Then I said what the heck… Hence
the blogspot…almostunfiltered30. It took me a while to realize that I was
responsible for me and no one else was.
So, I needed to be able to say what it was I wanted to say and to
whomever. Umm, not in a disrespectful
kind of way but it has to be said. I
feel like there are so many areas in my life where I need to give more and show
up 100% of the time. I’m working on
making my presence more known in these areas.
110% is my goal with exceptions.
And during those times I will give what it takes. Even if it’s 150%.
Day 5: Representative (How is your representative *past or
present* different from the real you? Why did you *or do you* feel that she was
necessary?)
At 31, what you see is what you get! I haven’t always been
that girl! My representative was the girl most people wanted to see but I
learned quickly that trying to please people would get me nowhere. Thankfully, I had parents who taught us how
to be individuals. And as great of a job
they did I still found myself not really being myself. I can be a little too outspoken. At a point in my life, I didn’t want to come
off as the “stereotypical” angry black woman.
But the reality of it is I was trying to conform to who I thought
society wanted me to be. I wanted to be
acceptable in the collegiate and corporate world. I wanted to be a politician so I thought I
needed to change who I was. The reality
of it is I only needed to communicate better and with a warmer tone. Luckily, I have a big sister who I act a lot
alike but I noticed the way she communicated was totally different from
me. This was the case even when we felt
the same way about things. I noted that
her tone and communication style was warmer and more effective. She didn’t come off as the angry black woman
with something to say but more like the intelligent woman who wasn’t a
pushover. I dropped my representative
and let the authentic me shine. I worked
on my communication skills and learned how to say things “politically correct”!
;) In all other situations, I’ve always been me. What you see is what you get. I’m happy to report that I no longer feel a
need to conform to who society thinks I should be. I have no desire to be anyone
but me… Uniquely created. Allowing a
representative to be present in your life is exhausting and drains you of the
REAL you. After a while, you will lose
sight of the REAL YOU! My motto is never
change who you are to conform to others but never stop improving the REAL you!
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